Scriptures That Truly Comfort... / Dacvid And Margarita (Passerby)
Dear Cecilia,
My wife and I are so sorry for the loss of your child, and we wish to express our condolences to you and your family. What has encouraged my wife and I upon the death of our loved ones was a booklet that we read, entitled
'When Someone You Love Dies,' which really helped us to cope with our feelings, such as grief and guilt during such a time. Some of the questions it answered for us were:
How Can I Live With My Grief?
How Long Does Grief Last?
Why Guilt, Anger, and Recrimination?
Facing the Loss of a Stillborn Child
The Mystery and Grief of Crib Death
Sudden Infant Death Syndrome-Facing the Grief
Steps to Help You Overcome Your Grief
Cecilia, you wrote that
'some people said that God chose her to be His angel and to be our saint.' Such thinking is not unique. Millions have thought the way they do,
however, using logic and reasonableness, such a belief is neither comforting nor Scriptural. Is the Creator really so cruel that he would capriciously inflict death on our loved ones, knowing that this breaks the hearts of the surviving family? No, not the God of the Bible; according to
1 John 4:8, “
God is love.” Note that it says not that God has love or that God is loving but that God is love.
So intense, so pure, so perfect is God’s love, so thoroughly does it permeate his personality and actions, that he may rightly be spoken of as the very personification of love. This is not a God who kills people
‘because he needs another angel.’ Rather, He wants families to be united in life, not divided in death. Then why death in the first place?
You wrote that
‘someday, somehow, your questions will be answered and you will understand.”
These were questions that my wife and I had as well. However, we found the answers!
You see Cecilia, what has comforted us is that God’s Word, the Bible, indicates that it is possible to be reunited with our dead loved ones in the near future, not in an unknown heaven,
but right here on earth under peaceful, righteous conditions. (John 5:21, 28, 29) At that time humans will have the prospect of enjoying perfect health, and they will never have to die again. (Psalm 37:29 and Matthew 5:5.)
In fact, a Bible prophecy in the book of Isaiah goes on to tell of the heartwarming conditions that will prevail in God’s new world, saying:
“No more will the sound of weeping or the sound of cries be heard in her; in her, no more will be found the infant living a few days only . . . They will not toil in vain or beget children to their own ruin, for they will be a race blessed by Yahweh, and their children with them.”—Isaiah 65:19-24, Jerusalem Bible.
Some other verses that have comforted us:
2 Corinthians 1:3, 4 "Blessed be the Father of tender mercies and the God of all comfort, who comforts us in all our tribulation."
Psalm 145:16 "You are opening your hand and satisfying the desire of every living thing."
Acts 17:31 "He [God] has set a day in which he purposes to judge the inhabited earth in righteousness by a man whom he has appointed, and he has furnished a guarantee to all men in that he has resurrected him from the dead."
Isaiah 51:12 "I—I myself am the One that is comforting you people."
Isaiah 66:13 "Like a man whom his own mother keeps comforting, so I myself shall keep comforting you people."
Psalm 119:50, 52, 76 "This is my comfort in my affliction, for your own saying has preserved me alive. I have remembered your judicial decisions from time indefinite, O Jehovah, and I find comfort for myself. May your loving-kindness serve, please, to comfort me, according to your saying to your servant."
John 5:28, 29 "The hour is coming in which all those in the memorial tombs will hear his voice and come out, those who did good things to a resurrection of life."
My wife and I know that you will find very comforting, not only the scriptures referenced here, but also the booklet. They have truly made it easier for us.
Cecilia, please feel free to share these thoughts with the rest of your family. If you or they would like further information about our loving Creator's hope for such ones, practical suggestions that help to deal with grief, as well as how to answer children's questions in these matters,
you are welcome to email us back, and we can mail you a physical copy that we have available, at no cost to you, and without any obligation.
Again, we are truly sorry for your loss of your little one. Our prayers will be with you and yours.
Sincerely,
David & Margarita Schroeder
schroederhome@gmail.com
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